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What Will Happen To Your Job?

Most jobs today are scoped in such a way they’ll be easily replaced by artificial intelligence. I remember being slightly nauseous when I learned that 60% of US jobs and 80% of global jobs require zero decision-making, judgment, or creativity. Zero. It’s shocking to think of. But then look at an everyday experience of interacting  More

Have You Done Your Part?

When I walked up to the registration desk, the people there seemed, I don’t know… almost disappointed to see my check-in. Not long after, I was standing next to the 3×4’ sign with my face on it as the closing keynote speaker when I heard a conference attendee say, “I don’t know her; I’m going to go  More

In ShondaLand: Seek Life Elsewhere

When I was writing this essay just published by the media mogul platform that is Shondaland, I kept replaying a particular movie scene in my head. One of my favorite movies is GI Jane. It’s a story of the first woman to become a Navy Seal. And, so, overcoming deep sexism. At one point the  More

Identity is a Fluid Social Construct

It wasn’t until I lived in Paris that I realized I wasn’t brown. Or, a woman. I’ve lived in America most of my life, since I was 4.5 years old. There, I am always brown. I am brown, for example, when I walk into most shops, from a Banana Republic all the way to Neiman’s. Nearly  More

In Harvard Business Review: To Change Someone’s Mind, Stop Talking and Listen

This post originally appeared in Harvard Business Review. Samar Minallah Khan, the feminist Pakistani anthropologist and filmmaker, was enraged. Local tribal leaders were trading little girls as compensation for their male family members’ crimes. These leaders, responsible for settling legal disputes in their villages, act as local judges. A longstanding practice was to address major  More