Archive | The Personal Story

Some stories about Nilofer and the path she’s walking.

In ShondaLand: Seek Life Elsewhere

When I was writing this essay just published by the media mogul platform that is Shondaland, I kept replaying a particular movie scene in my head. One of my favorite movies is GI Jane. It’s a story of the first woman to become a Navy Seal. And, so, overcoming deep sexism. At one point the  More

It’s what you do that defines you

How often I think of thanking the people who have been helpful. But then, I don’t act on it. Sometimes it’s because I feel like that might make that person uncomfortable (what if they think I’m asking them for something and the gratitude is just a setup?). Or, I worry I won’t find the right  More

Shhh … Don’t Tell My Boss

Being a “slash-career” person, i.e. writer / speaker / researcher / professor, can mean your “boss” is a tyrant-like type who always has a new demand of you, and never celebrates your accomplishments. This is the “downside” of the “slash-career”. Ideas come at their own time and their own speed; so it’s hard to schedule  More

Calling Fellow Explorers

This June, I signed a deal with Viking (Penguin) to publish my third book, on Onlyness. My son desperately wanted it shared with you, the Yes & Know community. Maybe he has picked up that everything become more real when you share them? When I said it seemed better to wait until the deal sheet  More