Archive | The Personal Story

Some stories about Nilofer and the path she’s walking.

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What’s Your ScoreBoard?

During my first marriage, I thought the goal was to stay married. In jobs, I thought the goal was to get promoted to the next big title/level/responsibility. When I used to seriously run, I thought it was all about completing a marathon. This lens on life caused a vise-like grip onto certain outcomes. The wrong  More

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Infected with Comparisonitis

I got infected with a terrible disease this week. I didn’t realize it for a bit, but the diagnosis is now complete. I almost don’t want to tell you about it, especially in the gory detail, because it is hideous. It is equally raw, and ugly, and festering. I fear you will find me hideous  More

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Quotas / Women / Boards

One might wonder why I would choose to write about an issue of women and board seats just after taking on a new role as a corporate director of a public company. So before you read this post I’ve just done over at Harvard (below), I want to take a minute to share my context.  More

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And, Who Are You?

The quiet and art-filled office space overlooking majestic oak trees, the joy of working with Mike Mace,  the significant source of income for our family. These were things I thought of when I thought of what I was losing when shutting down Rubicon. What I didn’t think of until it happened was this: when you  More

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Don’t Give Up

Life is full of twists and turns and it is sometimes easy to get sick of the many gyrations that are needed to make a business thrive, a project launch, or even to get internal signoff in some bureaucratic version of the Hokey Pokey. It would be so easy to quit. But a part of  More

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Asking for Help

From the back seat, he coached me, “Mom, you should apologize to Dad”. I had just finished snapping an abrupt and snappish response to the driver of the car, who was also, um, my husband. I knew what I had done was wrong, but I was more focused on being mad, defensive, and frustrated.  But  More

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