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Intersections of Compassion

Intersections of Compassion

In recent weeks, we’ve been exploring a question that many of us grapple with: How do I actually go about finding my purpose, my meaning .. My Onlyness? Understanding why Onlyness matters is one thing; identifying your Onlyness–or what Meryl Streep calls “the weird thing about you”–is another. There’s no magical formula for discovering your Onlyess:  More

Go Where There Is A You-Shaped Hole

Not a fan of Girls, mostly because I’m not a fan of most pop-culture stuff. But over the years, I’ve seen Lena Dunham really embody her strength. For good, for not so good, she is truly herself. And this short little clip (less than 5 Minutes) embraces an idea I think each of us could  More

Mirror of Life.  Found at imgur.com

How to Find Onlyness: A Parable

There once was a school that taught all the wonderful things. Anything in the world that anyone could ever want to do, learn or be could be studied and mastered.  All the best people taught there, so getting in was a big deal.  But once you were in, you had to choose your own path  More

Stop asking yourself, "what do I love, and focus instead on the doing"

One True Thing (Part III of III on How To Know Your Onlyness)

As we wrap up our conversation with Geoff (which continues in the comments, please join us!) let’s highlight one of the more nuanced elements of Onlyness: It lives at the intersection of what you care about. The trick is not to focus on the tension, but the harmony. This is Part III of a series  More

Shonda Rhimes 2014 Dartmouth Graduation

Get Busy Being Yourself

As we’ve been talking about “how to find your onlyness”, I thought you might like this nugget of wisdom from Shonda Rhimes: I did not dream of being a TV writer. Never, not once when I was here in the hallowed halls of the Ivy League, did I say to myself, “Self, I want to  More


Is Onlyness Selfish? (How to Find Your Onlyness, Part II)

In the last post <link>, I shared the first part of an ongoing conversation I’ve been having with an e-pistolary friend about finding one’s Onlyness. Geoff, like so many of us, was having trouble identifying what his ‘weird’ is, that thing(s) that only he can contribute to the world. In this installment, things get pretty  More