“Bullet-Proof” Conversations

Dear friend:

I realize i was quite anxious to see you last week and that surprised me a some level but as I reflected on it, I realize that I’ve wanted to show up with our conversations about what is next, with bullet-proof clarity. From many comments you’ve made to me over time, I’ve come to feel like unless I show up with a fully considered plan, you spend your energy showing me the gaps in the early idea rather than seeing and supporting the vision. I walk away always feeling smaller. I don’t think this is what you want for me.
But then I saw this post from Seth today. In it,  says:
We’re not organized to encourage and celebrate the unproven striver. It’s safer to tear them down (with their best interests at heart, of course). Better, we think, to let them down easy, to encourage them to take a safer path, to be realistic, to hear it from us rather than the marketplace.
I realize that what you are doing is trying to protect me. Is that it? And it makes me think I have to have all my ideas fully vetted before I can talk with you about it. Which means I can’t talk about things as they are developing. In other words, as I’m creating, you’ve made it nearly impossible for me to express what I am working on.
You think that you can make things better for me by showing me how my ideas are wrong, how they’ll never happen, how I should take the safe road?
That really won’t protect me, you know. It’ll only keep me small.
And my light hidden.
And the other thing that you need to know is that plenty of people are out there to advise me on what is missing, how I’ll fail, what to watch out for. You are a friend. From you, I need support and guidance given with care. I don’t need to be torn down by you.
So, I’m sorry if I came across as having my wall up. I will work on that as my own spiritual exercise. But please stop trying to “protect me”.
Rather: believe in me, encourage me, guide me, and most of all, help me be the big leader I can be to do good in the world. Sharpen my focus so I am clearer but stop trying to protect me. It really sucks.
Sound good?
Ok, thanks, bye.
(Entrepreneurs: share this link all your “friends” trying to “protect you”)

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