An entrepreneur & CEO wrote me an email around the holidays that sounded just a bit desperate; enough for me to take time out of family time over the holidays to take a meeting. It took her nearly an hour to unveil her dilemma, slowly revealing what she no longer wanted and then, finally, sharing this particulary wild idea about the life she wanted. She was not unclear what she wanted, but she had never seen it done before.
And then she asked me, “Is it okay for me to have this dream”?
I started a recent lunch meeting, by asking “Are you living your dream” because this person embodies this for me. And he stopped and reflected for a second and said back: “If I’m not, what the heck AM I doing… living someone else’s dream?” But sometimes, he added, it is hard to see that I am.
If we don’t know our own dream; perhaps we are saying it’s not important. Or we’re not important enough.
If we ask for permission from others,we are really looking for permission from ourselves. And if we wait for someone else to give it, it might never come. But then, at least, we can blame someone else or the world as a whole.
And sometimes we aren’t present or respectful to our dreams as they are manifesting… in the question, in the process, in the muck and messiness of the unfolding. As Eckhart Tolle tweeted today: “You can’t wait for the end of your problems for you to be present. It has to be done wherever you are—which is now.”
To my friend, the entrepreneur, I simply pose this question: “Are you asking me if you are allowed to have a dream? Because that is not mine to give, only yours to take.
Rêve. In French, it is to dream.
May I ask you, to ask yourself: Are you living your dream?
<I invite you to share your dream aloud, here. >
And for those of you that haven’t already read chrisguillebeau
’s guide to an unconventional life
, there’s some inspiration there for the any one of us wanting to live the life we want. My friend is borrowing my marked up copy now.